Imroving self-confidence

A few tips for improving your confidence, which goes hand in hand with improving your self esteem:

Feel good when you want to.

When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find three (3) things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person’s face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind.

Develop self confidence that lasts, because of the way emotions attach themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want, a great help.

Beat self consciousness; which is the #1 enemy of self confidence.

Learn how to keep your attention off yourself.

You can do this easily by following these steps:

If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something everyday you can see and study it in detail. For example; examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it, how and so on.
The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:
find out if you like the other people in the situation,make others feel comfortable,find out some
information,make business contacts,etc etcChallenge Your Own Assumptions

Confident looking people have bad days too,Just because you feel under confident, doesn't mean other people can tell,If you're saying things to yourself like "you're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, and eat without choking.

Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself; in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image. Building self-esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it’s about not thinking bad for no reason, andJust because you have felt bad about yourself in the past, doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way.

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